Recently Engaged? 5 Things to Consider When Picking a Wedding Band

Recently engaged or considering adding to your bridal stack? There are lots of options these days for wedding bands and even more ways to wear them. When you book a consult with LMJ to design wedding bands, I’ll walk you through the process so that you leave empowered and excited about your new forever rings. These are some things to consider before coming in, or making a wedding band purchase.


This is a great example of a straight wedding band paired with the perfect engagement ring. See how well they stack?

This is a great example of a straight wedding band paired with the perfect engagement ring. See how well they stack?

The half halo of diamonds on this contour band have been flush set, creating a comfortable, everyday-wearable ring with a big impact.

The half halo of diamonds on this contour band have been flush set, creating a comfortable, everyday-wearable ring with a big impact.

Style

Are you looking for a wedding band to match your engagement ring? Or perhaps you’d like to switch it up and create a nontraditional look with a different metal color or texture.

Depending on the shape and build of your engagement ring there are lots of options to compliment and enhance it. The big two in wedding band shapes are the traditional straight band, and the contour band. A straight band works great with engagement rings you know stack well - if the setting sits high enough to allow a band to snug in there nicely, or has an existing flat profile on at least one side. Contour bands are great for rings that don’t stack easily, or have an exaggerated profile. Within these two categories the ways to customize them are endless!

Other than shape, some other things to consider are:

  • Do you want to add gemstones/diamonds?

  • What color gold do you want the band to be?

  • Do you want a texture, & if so - what do you want it to look like?

    I can help you navigate all these design choices, but its good to have an idea of what you want before you come in.

  • Do you want more than one?

  • Are you looking to have matching wedding bands?

  • Are you willing to compromise style to stay within your budget, and what are your ‘non-negotiable ’ in regards to the look of the final piece?

I always encourage clients to look around at all the possibilities so that they can be sure they’ve explored al their options, and won’t regret not choosing a particular design down the road.

Here are some great examples of wedding bands I’ve made that can have a big impact on the look of your wedding set:

The pebble contour band is a great example of a low profile & sturdy ring that can withstand an active or rough and tumble lifestlye

The pebble contour band is a great example of a low profile & sturdy ring that can withstand an active or rough and tumble lifestlye

Lifestlye

This ties into style, but is important to note on its own. When picking any jewelry you plan on wearing on a daily basis it’s important to consider how you move through the world, and what you do with your hands in your day to day life. If you’re someone who spends a lot of time working with their hands, or takes gloves on and off a lot like nurses & doctors, a ring with prong settings with a propensity to catch might not be a good fit. On that same token, if you are rough on your jewelry or work with tools or machinery, something with a softer gemstone or delicate setting can be vulnerable and likely to interfere. Having an idea of what your hands go through day in and day out can help you narrow down your decisions.

Budget

There’s a wedding band to fit every budget, and I strive to work within your means to get you exactly what you want. It’s important to go into a consult or shopping experience with an idea of what you’re comfortable spending, as well as an expectation on what things cost. Most simple, thin wedding bands start around $380. From there the price can increase with options such as the addition of gemstones, a bigger width, or complexity of design and custom textures. A big misconception I run into a lot is that “men’s” bands are less expensive. In fact, because men or masculine individuals can gravitate towards wider bands, they can cost anywhere between two and six hundred dollars more. I try to keep my band pricing simple- within the signature textures and profiles I offer, the only thing that effects price is width- or the amount of material. That means a 5mm flat profile PEBBLE band costs the same as a 5mm half round CRATER band.

Kendra & Scott opted for blue zircon, an economical and stunning stone that pops against their yellow gold PEBBLE bands perfectly!

Kendra & Scott opted for blue zircon, an economical and stunning stone that pops against their yellow gold PEBBLE bands perfectly!

The addition of diamonds or gemstones can also drastically impact price. My diamond bands start around $850 and can increase from there depending on the size & shape of the diamond, the setting type, and the number of stones you want. I always offer diamond alternatives and other gemstones, which can help with budgeting, and infuse some uniqueness & color into the ring.

My advice is to think of this as investment. The money you spend now on a ring you know is well built and to your style will serve you much more than one that is cheaply made or not exactly what you were looking for. When you think about it, a wedding ring a bit above your budget can seem much more reasonable when divided by the number of days you'll enjoy & wear it.

Timing

A big question I get asked is how soon before your wedding should you start the wedding band process. I recommend giving yourselves a solid 2-3 months before your wedding date to start looking at, and thinking about what bands you want. Depending on the style you end up picking, the turnaround time can be anywhere from a week to 5 weeks. The 2-3 month rule gives you enough time to look at all your options, make an informed decision, and allow for the rings to be made. That said, if you are in a pinch, planned an impromptu elopement, or are a chronic procrastinator like me, my ready made + made to order wedding bands can be rush ordered and delivered quickly!

Traditions

Another set of queries I hear a lot center around tradition. I always tell people, there are no rules with jewelry- especially as it relates to your wonderful and unique love. Do what feels comfortable for you. You’ll be wearing this ring for a long time as a symbol of your commitment to one another. You should make sure it feels right and speaks to your own special point of view. Here’s a few of the big ones I hear a lot:

CRATER Contour Band with 5 conflict free diamonds

CRATER Contour Band with 5 conflict free diamonds

My contour twig band with 5 conflict free diamonds

My contour twig band with 5 conflict free diamonds

  • Is it okay if our wedding bands don’t match?

    • Absolutely! I have made tons of wedding band sets where the rings are totally different metals, textures, styles etc. Be sure to discuss with your partner what design elements are important to the both of you, and decide what you’re both comfortable with.

  • Can I choose a different metal from my engagement ring?

    • Definitely! I love a good mixed metal stack. Throw out the misconception that wedding sets need to be matchy matchy. I find that mixed metal ring sets can actually add to the longevity and timelessness of a wedding set, and gives a bit of versatility to your day to day style choices.

  • Can I have more than one?

    • YES! I am seeing a huge trend in wedding band stacks, with clients choosing two or three bands instead of the traditional one. Multiple wedding bands are great if you plan on rotating styles or love a bold stacked up look.

  • Can I choose silver instead of the traditional gold?

    • This one depends entirely on your budget and lifestyle. Silver can be a great cost effective option for the couple with a tight budget. However, silver is quite a bit softer than the 14kt golds I use, and will show a lot more wear and tear over time. I do not recommend silver for stone settings for this very reason. Another thing to keep in mind is upkeep. Sterling tarnishes, and will require regular cleaning. If you are okay with all that- I say go for it!

No matter what you end up deciding on for your wedding bands, I can help guide you through the process and ensure you end up with exactly what you want. Don’t hesitate to reach out with any questions or to get the ball rolling on a custom wedding band. You are always welcome to come by Open Studio too- to get a feel for current offerings or design a custom set.